End , Is the new Start. ♥: My thoughts on the qualities that my future spouse should have.

Although it is impossible to foretell what is going to happen in the future, there are some areas in which we can lay the foundation for happiness. A good example of this is marriage. A Chinese saying states that the worst thing a woman fears is marrying the wrong man. This is certainly very true. Thus, it is important to ensure that we know what we are looking for in our future spouse.

The first quality that I would look for is definitely dependability. If I were to share my life with a person, I would definitely want to be sure that he is a trustworthy man whom I can always turn to. If he irresponsible, it would be near impossible to try to build a life together.

I remember my neighbours in the last place my family lived in. Mrs Tan was a wonderfully sweet lady who juggled three jobs in a day to give her four children a decent life. Yet, she was ever burdened by her drunkard of a husband who not only failed to keep a job but also turned to her for money shamelessly. In such a case, I cannot help but think that my future must be someone I can depend on.

It is also imperative that my future husband is an honest man. Honesty is especially vital in a relationship because both parties must be sure that they are trusted and can trust the other person. Imagine a situation where both parties are suspicious of each other and are constantly trying to spy on the other person, it would certainly be a miserable relationship! After all, the social obligations and activities that we have can necessitate both the husband and wife having to spent time away from each other. If one party feels that other way be up to something fishy, a lot of unpleasantness can result. It would be terrible to live in a marriage where there is no honesty with each other.

By nature, I am a happy-go-lucky person who enjoys a good laugh once in a while. If I have to spend the rest of my life with a man who finds it difficult to see the fun in life, then I would feel like a bird in an extremely small cage being unable to unfurl my wings to fly. When I think of my future husband, I think of someone with a quirky sense of humour and a ready laugh. It will be someone who will see the bright side of matters instead of getting unnecessarily bogged down by problems. To me, a good sense of humour is an essential ingredient in the recipe for a lasting marriage.

Of course, it must be noted that these criteria may change with time as I mature with the myriad of experiences that is sure to come my way. In time to come, I am sure a more complete picture of my ideal husband will emerge.